Lulla Drewery, El Paso, TX, 7/16/15

Appreciation!  

I was remarried and I am forever grateful for a man who loves God, loves me as Christ, loved the Church and loves both my sons (his stepsons) and our grandchildren (his step-grandchildren) with all of his heart. God sent him to me a man that was already serving God, never was married and never fathered children.

He helped me with all my baggage from my first marriage with patience, kindness but firmness when needed. I was terribly broken from my first marriage that happened when I was 16 years old and in a marriage for 16 years with the only man I had ever known, who I loved desperately and who is the father of my 2 sons.

For years after my divorce I felt that not only did we divorce each other but their father also divorced our sons and the guilt of causing their father was almost unbearable. The boys suffered due to our stuff and not being able to still parent after divorce. God, a great husband and therapy has really been the key to my wellness and to me becoming being a wife, mother and grandmother that God has called me to be. In saying that, being in a blended family saved my life and I think my husband being a stepparent to my sons was the best thing that could have happened to them both as young men. In closing, it has been my desire to keep a relationship with my children's father and up until 5 years ago, I would write him try and let him know what the men are doing, when grandkids graduated just things that I thought he needed to know but finally God released me from that and I have accepted the fact that he is not open to being in a civil relationship so I pray for him still and will always care for the man who fathered my sons. Hope this is something that gives you confirmation in some parts of the book.

Jamera thank you so much for the chapters of the book. I read it as I indulging in a pedicure. I could not stop reading it once I started. It is so easy to read and so packed with truth. Package Deal. When current husband and I got married, he told me this then and through the years "I'm marrying you and I'm marrying the 2 sons also and that to me was so important.

My sons are so grateful for his stepfather.

The only thing I can think of is that step parenting can be a loving and peaceful experience if the two adults separating would lay their emotions aside to help the children involved transition to a peaceful environment.